Apr 3Too Bad if Black Women Are Too Much for You“Too” is an adverb that the Oxford Dictionary defines as “to a higher degree than is desirable, permissible, or possible; excessively. Too is also an adverb used to qualify adjectives describing Black women and girls. Too loud, too ghetto, too grown, too ratchet, and a crowd favorite, too aggressive. Those…Angel Reese4 min readAngel Reese4 min read
Sep 19, 2022What I Didn’t Know Before I Had My Ovaries RemovedIt has been 7 years since I had my ovaries removed, and despite it all, it was well worth it. I thought I was going into it fully understanding the changes that would happen. I had no idea just how much would change internally and externally. Let’s rewind, shall we…Healthcare4 min readHealthcare4 min read
Sep 6, 2022Three Ways to Respond to HatersThere should be a soundtrack to everything, even dealing with haters. When you are someone (especially a Black woman) who carries themselves with an epic level of confidence, there will be judgment, harsh, unkind judgment. Being confident means being subject to both celebration and misunderstanding. But if you respond to…Heaters3 min readHeaters3 min read
Apr 21, 2022Losing My Two-CentThe day I graduated from college with my bachelor’s degree should have been one of the happiest moments of my life. After getting pregnant during my first year, no one believed I would finish except me. Despite all the obstacles, delays, a transfer, and changing my major during junior year…Grief And Loss5 min readGrief And Loss5 min read
Jan 19, 2022On Being the First and Only BlackNothing creates combined feelings of pride, frustration, and burden like being the first or only Black person in a position. All eyes are on you, from every vantage point, some rooting for you,some envious, others questioning whether you deserve to be there. W.E.B Dubois’ “doubleconsciousness” is suddenly experienced in another…Race2 min readRace2 min read
Oct 25, 2021How Desegregation Forced Me to Stand OutAt the end of the year, my fifth-grade teacher wrote, “Latoya can be an excellent student with encouragement. Tends to be easily led.” This was most certainly an assessment made through the lens of a teacher who lacked cultural competency. While the term has become a buzzword in education in…Race4 min readRace4 min read
Sep 7, 2021Protect Your Bag, SisLove and Hip Hop’s Yandy Smith and Mendeecees Harris renewed their vows in Dubai but not before the legitimacy of their first wedding was called into question once again. Yandy has admittedly let us all know that she was unwilling to sign a marriage certificate that would legally bind her…Yandy Smith2 min readYandy Smith2 min read
Jul 26, 2021How to Tell if you Suck as a FriendBeing in a pandemic for over a year has undoubtedly changed relationships. Some have grown to appreciate family and friends after experiencing so much loss, grief, and solitude. With mental health issues at an all-time high, some have also come to feel uncared for because their friends don’t check in…Friendship2 min readFriendship2 min read
Jun 14, 2021How Janet Jackson Saved MeI often joke with people about how Janet Jackson’s Love Will Never Do video broke my heart, but at one time, I was dead serious. It’s not…Black Music Month4 min readBlack Music Month4 min read
May 13, 2021How MAFS Poured Salt on the Open Wounds of Black WomenHow MAFS Poured Salt on the Open Wounds of Black Women I’m an avid watcher of Married at First Sight and pre-shows. I plan my workouts, meals around Wednesday night’s episodes. Everything has to be done by 8 p.m. so I can have my glass of wine and text my…Married At First Sight4 min readMarried At First Sight4 min read
